A reflection

From a Foster Parent

I held my young person this morning whilst they shook and sobbed as memories of past traumas flooded their mind.  There was not only an emotional reaction there was a physical one.  Shaking uncontrollably, hyperventilating.  As I held them close and made soothing noises I cried.  My heart broke that this child had experienced this abuse.  I was angry that people that were meant to care for, and love and guide this young person had treated them so badly that this morning, in our kitchen, the raw emotions and pain from this was spilling out. 

An overwhelming feeling of protectiveness enveloped me as I continued to hold them and rock them.  If I could absorb all that hurt and pain from them, I would.  If I could go back in time and save them from this, I would.

But I can’t.

What I know I can do, is be there, be present, listen, hold, soothe, care, love, be strong.

I’m humbled by the strength and bravery of this young person and deeply humbled that they have trusted me enough to share this with me and show me their inner most trauma and pain so that I may take small steps to help them learn to heal. 

But I can’t heal them.

I can guide them, signpost them the way to healing, teach them through love and care and the right parenting the way to heal.

There is a long journey ahead for us which at times will be angry, painful, full of hurt, lots of tears and scary but it will also be full of strength, bravery, laughter, care, and love

This is what being a foster parent means.

If you are considering fostering you really can change lives for the better and there has never been a better time to get involved. We are looking to support people just like you to help provide a safe, stable and happy home, to vulnerable children and young people.

if you would like to know more, please call Sarah on 01745 421669 or get in touch with us here.